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Warm, Like The Evening Sun


(This post will remain at the top until Sunday. I want to pay tribute to all of the goodness and kindness that we started, and I want to honor these babies to the best of my ability. Oh, and I’m sorry that the formatting keeps going wonky. I don’t get it.)


I am shocked, seriously shocked by the overwhelming love and support that my post spawned.

I suppose I never expected the reaches of it would be so wide spread, and I am honored that Alex’s first birthday was able to generate such kind deeds and love for other people.

To be honest, I’ve always believed in the overall goodness of human nature (and no, last I checked neither sunshine nor rainbows have been falling out of ANY of my orifices now or ever, nor do I sit around singing “Come on people now, smile on your brother…” unless I am mocking someone or something. And YES, my parents ARE hippies. So what?).

I think that people often want to do the right thing, even if they’re unable to do it in the right way, and sometimes a gentle nudging swift kick in the ass is all that people need to make things right-er (I KNOW it’s not a word. Never said I was a cunning linguist. Hehehe).

But what has happened with my plea for good deeds in the name of all of my angel babies who were at Alex’s party only in spirit (and they were. I swear to you. Now I sound like a kook. Shit.), has overwhelmed even me.

Seriously, I want to thank each and every person who has stepped up and performed acts of kindness from the bottom of my ickle heart.

I’d hug you all personally if I was able and buy you each a big fat drink and tell you how much this has meant not only to me, but to the parents of all of the children we paid tribute to.

And I am informing each of you that this is going to be a tradition over here at Casa de la Sausage, that for each and every holiday I celebrate (which does not include Arbor day, Flag day OR Bastille Day–the day before my own birthday) my blog will again be paying tribute to all of my angel nieces and nephews with more pleas for acts of kindness and love.

It’s the least that we can each do (I never said you had to give cold hard cash) for all of the families out there who are missing one each and every day that they live. I know that the holidays are filled with sadness and longing, and the absence of their physical children is amplified by the what-could-have-been’s. If we can lighten this load even in the slightest way, we can and we will. So get your thinking caps on, May is up next.

This is who we did our deeds for:


Baby JP



Isabel Grace


William Henry









Olive Lucy

I am completely aware that this is by no means an exhaustive list (far, far, from it), and I will be adding to this as I learn the names of more children. Please, please, leave me a comment if you would like your child added here. I will only do it with express permission from Mommy or Daddy.

But we pay tribute to the lives of my angel nieces and nephews today and every day, never to forget a single name off this list, because this is the good and right thing to do. Go visit these parents and learn all about their children and the lives that they touched.

There are some truly amazing people out there. We send light, love, peace and happiness to each and every one of you, my sweet babies, and to your brave and amazing families. Smootches from your Aunt Becky, her Alex, her Benny and her The Daver.

We love you very much, my sweet baby angels.

We also send cake:

Alex left PLENTY to share.

And now comes the time that I wanted to share with you all of the amazing things that people have done:

Kyddryn made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

Ames made a donation to March of Dimes (she’s the one who is walking for her daughter Gracie. She’s accepting donations for her team until April 19) AND Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

Amy (William Henry’s Mommy) made a donation to M.O.M project and Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep, AND did the sweetest thing I’ve ever heard of. I’m getting tearful just THINKING about it. Go see what she did, and tell her how amazing she is.

Judy is making a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

Jenn (Sarah’s Mommy) made donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep, AND started a Love Train of her own. Go see her and tell her how awesome she is.).

Baseball Mom made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

The Rambling Housewife made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

Heather (also, Aodin’s Mommy) made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

Tash (Maddy’s Mommy) is going to make sure local hospitals and NICU’s know about Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

Kristen (Kalila’s Mommy) made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

B made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep AND March of Dimes.

Kbreints made a donation to March of Dimes.

Ms. Prufrock is making a donation to March of Dimes.

Andria made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

The Daver (a.k.a. “Mr. Aunt Becky”) has been donating computing power to AIDS research and protein folding.

Sarah Ross (Isabel Grace’s Mommy) made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep as well as March of Dimes.

Go see what Hope has done. It’s too sweet for words.

Carylnn is making a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

And see here! Someone I DON’T EVEN KNOW is perpetuating this kindness.

B1G1 has made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

Anjali has made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

(If I have made an error in any of these, or have neglected to mention you specifically, drop me a comment OR email me at becky (at) dwink (dot) net.I am often glaringly stupid, but in this case, since it involves people outside of my head, I don’t want to fuck it up.)

And wow, that’s a huge list, people. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You guys are all amazing to me, and I’m proud as hell to have met you through the Internet.I will hold a drawing and pick out a couple people to send rockin’ prizes to (i.e. autographed pictures of Aunt Becky. Like this one.)

(obviously, I hadn’t had time to cake on the eyeliner, but hey in my defense, it was early. And no, surprisingly no one had stuck a finger up my butt right before this picture was taken. I’m just that cheerful looking ALL of the time. My husband is one lucky man.).

“May the good Lord, shine a light on you,Make every song you sing, your favorite tune.”


I miss you, Steph, and I wish you were here with me. I know that you’d be proud of us. Take care of my darling baby angels, okay? Tell them that I will bring candy and presents when I come up with you guys. I’ll be missing you.

38 Comments to

“Warm, Like The Evening Sun”

  1. On March 31st, 2008 at 12:57 pm Heather Says:

    You might be my new favorite human. Seriously.

    Thanks again, for everything.

  2. On March 31st, 2008 at 12:58 pm Heather Says:

    You might be my new favorite human. Seriously.

    Thanks again, for everything. Not the least of which being at least the third time you’ve made me cry at work… 🙂

  3. On March 31st, 2008 at 1:07 pm kbreints Says:

    OMG! You have beautiful Hair. Oh– and I love the picturte of him poking his finger into the cake. So funny!

  4. On March 31st, 2008 at 1:19 pm c. Says:

    You are amazing, Becky (and easy on the eyes, too). You have me in tears. XO.

  5. On March 31st, 2008 at 1:26 pm b Says:

    Aunt Becky, you look a lot like my IRL’s not you, is it Angie? Granted, this looks like a MUCH younger you..but if this is you, I can’t talk to you anymore…even under an assumed name. Otherwise, YOU ROCK THE PARTY AUNT BECKY!!

  6. On March 31st, 2008 at 1:47 pm g Says:

    “cunning linguist”


  7. On March 31st, 2008 at 1:50 pm Amy Says:

    Crying once again! Good thing, I only read your posts when I am at home! Good Freak’n Lord, I am so incredibly amazed by you and yes, I have to agree with C, you are easy on the eyes!

    I do believe I won’t share your picture with Shan as it may give him ideas (yes, gross, I know!)

    Again, thank you from the bottom or top or hey, my whole heart! I am proud to do things in honor of your little ones! I would be more than happy to dish it out everyday…you make me want to give, give, give!

  8. On March 31st, 2008 at 2:03 pm Sarah Ross Says:

    I also made a donation to NILMDTS and to a couple of the March for Babies moms. Thanks Becky – you’re a star 🙂

  9. On March 31st, 2008 at 2:19 pm Ames Says:

    You have started something truly amazing…of that I’m sure.

    P.S. The “cunning linquist” thing had me laughing my ass off.

  10. On March 31st, 2008 at 2:26 pm Pauline Says:

    That’s twice today that you made me cry. Twice. At work. You’re the best. XOXO

  11. On March 31st, 2008 at 2:36 pm Doc Says:

    Hmmmmm. I want one of those autographed pics….

  12. On March 31st, 2008 at 2:47 pm theramblinghousewife Says:

    So glad you did this … It’s always good to pause a moment . . .and count our blessings, I think!

  13. On March 31st, 2008 at 2:51 pm Don Mills Diva Says:

    The vast majority of people really are good-hearted – I believe that too and you’ve certainly helped bolster that belief.

    Love the shot of him and his cake!

  14. On March 31st, 2008 at 5:06 pm MsPrufrock Says:

    I love that cake and want it for myself. Gorgeous.

    Also, yer cute. If I wasn’t a married woman, you weren’t a married woman, and either one of us were at the very least bisexual, we could so get together. Well, you could be bisexual, I don’t know. The love of eyeliner could go either way.

  15. On March 31st, 2008 at 5:29 pm CLC Says:

    Becky- You must be gunning for Mother of the Year award. I know I would give it to you. I have never seen such a fantastic looking cake! Alex is one lucky boy!

    And I would love it if you include Hannah in your list.

  16. On March 31st, 2008 at 8:09 pm LaskiGal Says:

    I can’t remember how I found you, but so glad I did. What you have done/encouraged/facilitated is nothing short of amazing! I read past posts and my heart is both aching and leaping for joy!

    Truly amazing.

  17. On March 31st, 2008 at 8:53 pm Jerseygirl89 Says:

    What a beautiful post and picture!

    And btw, I want your hair.

  18. On March 31st, 2008 at 10:09 pm becky Says:

    God, Becky… you rock my world. Seriously.

  19. On April 1st, 2008 at 8:13 am Tricia Says:

    Thank you again for being the mom that doesn’t avoid us and our pain.

    With much respect.

  20. On April 1st, 2008 at 8:25 am Victoria Says:

    Wow, Becky – what a powerful thing you have here. You are truly beautiful (inside and out!)

    All my best.


  21. On April 1st, 2008 at 11:37 am Margaret Says:

    Your blog is amazingly powerful, profoundly impactful, and done with such heart. I’m feeling so grateful that I didn’t have to endure the loss that so many of the families on your sight have. And here I went on anti-depressants because my daughter went to college! Thanks for the eye opener.

  22. On April 1st, 2008 at 2:52 pm Lynanne Says:

    I just now read your tribute to your birthday boy. I about wet myself laughing so hard (or maybe it was because the pregnancy with my almost-1-year-old had such a lasting effect? Oh dear me, TMI).

    Of course, I found your post touching as well. My best friend (more like a sister to me) lost a baby on my oldest son’s birthday. Every birthday my son has is bitter sweet reminder.

  23. On April 1st, 2008 at 3:32 pm Margaret Says:

    Thank you for visiting my wee spot on the web. I’m glad I could make you smile, as your blog hits every emotion on the block! I will be adding you to my list as well and will check in with you often! Thanks again!

  24. On April 1st, 2008 at 4:02 pm Carlynn Says:

    Of course I haven’t got organised enough to make a donation but I’m thinking about it, every day. I am a big procrastinator. The cake looks amazing, did you make it?? And Alex’s cheeks are adorable. And now we come to your photo, wow. I am impressed. I haven’t looked that good since I was about 2 years old, you go Aunt Becky!

  25. On April 1st, 2008 at 8:48 pm Lainey-Paney Says:

    We lost our baby, Masyn, in July.
    Another mom in my support group had pictures of her daughter made with Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep. They were beautiful. Her daughter died shortly thereafter, but she will always have the photos. They are a wonderful, wonderful organization.

  26. On April 1st, 2008 at 9:54 pm kalakly Says:

    Speechless, not an easy thing for me to admit, but that’s what I am. Thank you for taking a moment, well more than one, to shine the light on these lost babies of ours. Often our only support is one another and we forget how many people out there do care enough to do something to help us and other mothers who are beginning to walk our journey with us. Thank you for bringing our children out of the “dead baby” club and into the the lives of many others who may never know our pain or our babies, but now know about them and that they were loved and will always be missed. You will never know what your sweet act has done for so many of us who hide in the shadows and spend out days fearing that no one will ever know about our babies, that our babies won’t matter to anyone but us. Thank you for reminding us that we are not alone.

    P.S. Alex, when you get old enough I hope someone can tell you what an amazing mom you have…and if they don’t, call me, cuz I’ll fill your ears.

    P.P.S. I want a cake with a hooka on it, fer real!!!

    P.P.P.S. Apparantly, not so speechless afterall.

  27. On April 2nd, 2008 at 8:03 am As American as Apple Pie Says:

    I am in awe of your kindness and thoughtfullness. You are an inspiration. I would be humbled if you added Liam to your list. He would have been 7 in Oct.

  28. On April 2nd, 2008 at 10:24 am Doc Says:

    Becky… As American as Apple Pie’s blog link is the same as mine….

  29. On April 2nd, 2008 at 12:02 pm honeywine Says:

    Thank God for Hippies! 🙂

  30. On April 2nd, 2008 at 8:41 pm Marly Says:

    Dear Becky, every time I scroll past your picture in this post, I freak out a little. You have a doppleganger. She lives just outside of Kansas City, and she has been my best friend for 35 years! So, if you’ve suddenly noticed a bunch of hits from the KC area, it’s because I emailed everyone who knows her, and told them to check you out. And I may have also called you one of the coolest people I know without having actually met. 😉

  31. On April 3rd, 2008 at 9:57 am Pauline Says:

    Better late than never, but I performed a random act of kindess in your honor this morning. 😉 I bought the person behind me their starbuck’s this am, all the while thinking about all the GREAT deeds you’ve done. 🙂

  32. On April 3rd, 2008 at 1:20 pm rebecca Says:

    I came here through That Psycho Family, and just wanted to send you a virtual hug.


  33. On April 3rd, 2008 at 3:45 pm LAS Says:

    This is truly amazing – very inspirational!

  34. On April 5th, 2008 at 7:01 am christine Says:

    wow. very few words. it is just amazing to me that someone not in the club can understand the club.

    i’ll do something not sure yet what but there is something to do in your honor for sure.

  35. On April 5th, 2008 at 2:24 pm Ann Says:

    I am so happy that I found your blog. The title rocks alone, but the person behind it is pretty damn phenomenol!! xo. So proud to have virtually met you.

  36. On April 5th, 2008 at 3:49 pm niobe Says:

    You are teh best. Ever.

  37. On April 7th, 2008 at 11:14 am kspin Says:

    I loved your post and was thrilled to be able to help keep the train going, even if only in a small way. Your passion for these causes is very apparent and I know you make others want to do more…like me! Keep it up!

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