Mother’s Day: We Are None Of Us Alone
This weekend, at Band Back Together, we’re hosting a carnival of posts about Mother’s Day. Before you run away gagging, hear me out: these are the kinds of Mother’s Day posts I wish I’d read years ago. Knowing that I was not alone in my struggles was a pivotal point in my life.
Today, we celebrate the tables forever missing one.
Today we celebrate the mothers we’ve lost and the mothers we’ve found.
We’re celebrating the mothers we wish we’d had while acknowledging the mothers we did have.
This year I’m proud to celebrate a carnival of Mother’s Day posts from perspectives that aren’t always storybook. Perspectives like mine. Perspectives like Jana’s. Perspectives like yours.
Today, no matter where you are in your life, whether you’re missing your own mom, happily celebrating with family, stuck at a table forever missing one, wishing desperately that you were a mother, or wishing desperately that you had a mother, know these two things: you are loved and, more importantly, we are none of us alone.
I didn’t have the mother that I wanted to have. But I am learning to live with the mother I got. It’s all about acceptance of your situation. And it took me almost 48 years to get to the point where I could think about acceptance.
I echo Chelle’s comments. I also want you to know that your post brought me back to the Band site and helped bring up so many things I needed to consider again. Thank you, AB, for having the Band. I’ve rarely commented yet its supported me just from reading posts that say what I think, feel, or used to feel. What you’re doing does matter.
Learning, always learning.
Always hoping I’m a good enough Mother.
God, how I love you. And how I need this in my life.
Yes, my mother: still alive, still wounding.
Thank you for this.
More than I can ever tell you.
THANK YOU.
I also agree with Chelle. My relationship with my mother has always been very tumultous. At this point in my life I’m willing to accept it as it is and let it go, but she is not. Surprisingly yesterday was a very good mother’s day — with my mother!