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Moving is not my forte. Well, I suppose that moving is NO ONE’s forte, but there are people who move for a living, so perhaps they enjoy their job. I can’t be sure. So I’ll go with “most people hate to move.” I, myself, as previously stated, am one of those people.

It’s not the packing or unpacking, it’s the goodbyes that go along with it. While moving from a house to an apartment wasn’t quite the same sort of job that required actual movers or anything, it was still hard to say goodbye to the home I’d been lovingly restoring for years. I never expected to leave.

I’d begun moving on Wednesday, the day after the Comcast debacle began, which, I’m beginning to doubt that Comcast actually DOES care, or they wouldn’t have made me waste approximately two days to get Internet, but that, my wonderful Pranksters, is neither here nor there. (but it does make an excellent story for another day)

Box after box, I loaded into the van, pretending to be an overly large ant simply bringing offerings to the queen. It helps if I can visualize something like that or I get annoyed at the bruises that now make it appear as though I’ve been thoroughly beaten with whips and chains or boxes I happened to fill just this side of too heavy.

Three trips later, we were nearly done transporting boxes from this place to my new home, all over but the furniture and a couple of boxes that could only be packed at the last minute because they contained items like, “Marshmallow Fluff” and “Socks.” I mean, a day without socks is a day not worth living, and I wasn’t stupid enough to wear flimsy flippity-flops to move in, although that does seem to be something I’d do. Four inch heals? Sure! Let’s go run a marathon! Imma beat you motherfuckers! Just as soon as I fix this broken heel and nurse the 27 blisters on my feet that I got already. Wait, it’s ONLY been two minutes? That’s bullshit.

It was weird, seeing my life packed up like that. I’d always thought that I had more stuff, but it turns out that my ritual purging had truly paid off. And not just because I’d already managed to dump my shit at the scary Salvation Army donations center, but because my life in boxes? Turns out, that well before this debacle began, I’d purged just the right amount of stuff to fit into my one-bedroom apartment. In fact, the only things I really needed to make my house a home were pieces of (cheap) furniture.

Target, you are my BFF forever and ever and ever. Except for the Pranksters who are my family.

Saturday, I brought my Muppet girlchild with me to the U-haul place nearby to pick up one of those truck thingies and managed to fill it – in one trip – with the furniture I could call my own, which means that I’ve been able to actually sit somewhere that is not the floor while I sort through my crap.

Slowly, I’ve been unpacking, cleaning, and placing things in my very own space. Because the space is smaller than the home I once lived in, it’s been much easier to utilize the space that I do have, paring down the items I own further, and making my apartment my home.

While leaving my home of 7 years has been incredibly hard, for the first time in my life, everything seems simpler.

More put together.

Calmer. More organized.

And happier.

Much, much happier.

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44 Comments to

“The Simple Life”

On October 1st, 2012 at 2:28 pm Aunt Becky (@mommywantsvodka) Says:
The Simple Life, or, I moved and survived and have the bruises to show for it all: http://t.co/VKsjhbCN
On October 1st, 2012 at 2:36 pm No Good Says:
Happier!!! Yes!!! So, so proud!
On October 1st, 2012 at 2:41 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
I’m doing it! I’m making it on my own!
On October 1st, 2012 at 2:49 pm Natalie Says:
I hope you have a house filled with joy and peace! One foot beside the other…then crawl…lol
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:46 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
There’s been plenty of crawling. Night’s are hardest. I’m all alone and it feels so weird.
On October 1st, 2012 at 2:50 pm Stacey Says:
You’re doing a wonderful job! Keep it up!!!
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:46 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Thanks, lovie. Sometimes I need the reminder. I’ve been up and down – this whole divorce thing is a damn roller coaster.
On October 1st, 2012 at 2:50 pm abandoning eden Says:
So have you ever lived on your own before? I know you had your first son pretty young, so assuming you might have lived with your parents, and then had your kids…anyways living alone is so much fun!

Here’s to new beginnings 🙂
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:47 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Nope! Never lived on my own. Wild, right? It’s weird – I won’t lie. It’s so quiet here at night that I hardly know what to do with myself.
On October 1st, 2012 at 2:51 pm amy Says:
I love that red ottoman! Here’s to fresh, happy start!
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:48 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
It’s the most amazing shade of sparkly pink. I squee whenever I see it.
On October 1st, 2012 at 3:03 pm Cindy Says:
Can I say that I’m proud of you? I remember all the purging I did vefore moving into the magic bus. Then there was more purging after I moved into the maguc bus. Purging, while therapeutic, is still hard. Moving out on your own, hard. Simplifying life? Hard, yet liberating. I’m proud of you, AB.
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:48 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Thanks, girl. I need all the encouragement I can get – it’s been a tough go. Moving is hard. Realizing that moving is permanent has been a very odd… shift in thinking.
On October 1st, 2012 at 3:31 pm Gamanda Says:
While I’m extremely proud of you going out on your own and taking charge of your life, I’m a little jealous of all of your purging. Wanna come over and help me purge all my crap?!
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:48 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
I can totally do that. I accept payment in the form of Diet Coke 🙂
On October 1st, 2012 at 3:39 pm Nikki Says:
Here’s to happiness in your new home! (Insert virtual glass clink!)
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:49 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
C’mon over and let’s have a REAL drink!
On October 1st, 2012 at 3:52 pm Colleen Says:
After my divorce and my move-in to my Girl Apartment, I took great joy that I could clean the entire space in 30 minutes. 2200 square feet was nice, but fuck cleaning multiple bathrooms, youknowwhatImean? A year and a half (and a second Girl Apartment) later and it takes me a bit more than that…I’ve re-acquired more shit, but still…living simpler has MANY perks! And my boys don’t even notice the difference.
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:49 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
YES! It’s unreal. One bathroom to clean. It takes me five minutes a night to clean and put away everything. Now I just have to finish unpacking…
On October 1st, 2012 at 4:37 pm Tracie Says:
I love the happier. And that nifty mirrored table you have going on there.

You did it!! I’m so very proud of you.
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:50 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
I did it! I freaking DID IT! I can’t believe it, but I did! Also: scared out of my mind, but I digress.
On October 1st, 2012 at 4:47 pm Joules Says:
Is that a hot pink ottoman I spy? Hawt! You’re doing it, girl!
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:50 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
It’s hot pink sparkly vinyl and the kids freaking LOVE it!
On October 1st, 2012 at 7:10 pm Kathleen Says:
Love that you’re feeling calmer and happier. And thanks for taking a break from unpacking to let us know.
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:51 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Of course! I had no internets or I’d have done a live blog of the move. Altho, The Guy Formerly On My Couch would’ve murdered me.
On October 1st, 2012 at 7:32 pm JodieGirl Says:
Welcome Home Aunt Becky!
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:51 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Thanks, love! I’m finally home. Finally.
On October 1st, 2012 at 9:07 pm Jolie Says:
Congrats on the new digs, the simple life that I WILL watch, and the light pouring from your post. Well played girl, well played. 🙂
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:52 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
It’s time for some love and light in life, right?
On October 1st, 2012 at 9:21 pm Becca Says:
I am glad this step has been calm for you. Even though it’s been hard, you are finding comfort in the small things. In the end, that is all we can hope for.
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:52 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Life, I’m learning, is all about the small things. It really is. The big things are less scary if you have the small things going for you.
On October 1st, 2012 at 9:28 pm Becky Mochaface Says:
Yay Aunt Becky!
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:52 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Thanks love! Come visit anytime!
On October 1st, 2012 at 11:25 pm Grace Says:
Yay! Love it! I can’t wait to come see it in person!!
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:53 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Like a week, right? Only a week? I can’t wait to see you!
On October 2nd, 2012 at 12:01 am Cindy DuBois Says:
A few months after I’d moved into my apartment, out of the marriage I’d lived in for 20 years, a colleague stopped me in the hallway of work and said, “Cindy, you look great. Have you lost weight?” I answered “No. I’ve chosen to be happy.” I’m glad you are finding your way. It’s one of the hardest but best things you’ll ever do. If I can, you can cause you taught me about “the eye of the motherfucking tiger.”
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:53 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Wow. Yeah. You’re so right. I feel lighter. My neck is less stressed and I feel more focused. I can do this. I know I can.
On October 2nd, 2012 at 5:29 am Carol Anne Says:
I love the potted tree/topiary in the silver bucket with rose petals. It’s beautiful. The table it is sitting on is pretty nifty too. 🙂 I’m so glad you’re happy in your new place.
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:53 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Thanks, love! You should come visit! The topiary thing lights up!
On October 2nd, 2012 at 9:08 am Alexandra Says:
Any place is beautiful when you’re happier in it.

I think of that when I see these pictures.

I’m excited for your new life.
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:54 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Finally, finally, I’m finding my happy. It’s tinged with sad, of course, because that’s the way it goes, but my happy is still in there. That’s something.
On October 2nd, 2012 at 12:00 pm leanne Says:
Yay for happiness!! I’m happy for you 🙂
On October 2nd, 2012 at 1:54 pm Your Aunt Becky Says:
Thank you, darling. Now you have to come visit me 🙂
On October 2nd, 2012 at 5:22 pm Triplezmom Says:
I want your key table!

I’m glad you’re feeling better, lady. I hope you are unpacking with no pants on.